Co-dependency means we are depending on something outside of ourselves to provide our sense of well-being. When we rely on an outside source for happiness, we create tension and stress in our mind-body; we can never be sure we are going to get what we need to make us feel complete. To return to our state of feeling harmonious in our mind and body means we must provide our own happiness, internally and externally; not be dependent on another person or source to make us happy.
When we recognize the beauty of our inner self, we must strive to allow it to take over our whole self to achieve harmony and balance. Happiness is experienced by a tension-free mind and body when we are living in harmony and balance with those around us and with our environment. Happiness and harmony can be experienced joyfully when we keep our actions for the best resolve of situations, and care to share with a giving rather than a needy attitude. To regain balance and harmony, you should control stress by breathing evenly, exercise such as walking or aerobics. Also adopt a positive attitude.
To conquer co-dependency, you must first become aware that there is a new and better way and that the old way will prevent you from achieving true joy and happiness in your life. By our free will we choose how to react to others and circumstances. A positive attitude helps you react with positive results. Placing blame only creates negative results. Know that circumstances have already occurred and are beyond your control, so a positive attitude will keep you on a forward positive trend and leave behind any harmful emotions. This gives way to clear thinking and conscious living.
Another way to overcome co-dependency is to analyze your feelings toward that person and accept what you cannot change. When we are in balance we can see more clearly that we are equipped with the necessary tools to be a happy, well-adjusted human being on our own. This allows us to love without expecting any love in return. This frees us to accept love on any level and see that neediness is selfishly expecting love.
Attachments either help or hinder
Attachments that keep us taking care of our responsibilities
such as with our family
are helpful
Attachments that disrupt our sense
of personal harmony and balance
hinder
keeping us from enjoying our full experience of humanness
Behind all hindering attachments is greed.....
What we really need in life
is to discover, uncover
our internal, eternal
fount of unconditionally loving energy
That we may then draw on it
to fortify us, enliven us
in our actions, interactions
in the world
When we are feeling needy
we are carrying the belief system
from outside of us.........Susan Kramer
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